tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2290387868157686268.post8432786979383437497..comments2020-01-24T16:16:32.874-05:00Comments on Hopeful Romantic: FirstsElise Caronhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15039602299667399758noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2290387868157686268.post-72464895489879451312013-06-10T13:36:06.462-04:002013-06-10T13:36:06.462-04:00Well thank you,
here is a few of the emails I rece...Well thank you,<br />here is a few of the emails I received in the recent past ><br /> <br />dove123<br />3/12/2013 12:21:29 AM<br />Hi Tracy. Iam Trina. I just read your profile - you go! I believe things should just be said out right and its nice to see that. <br />If you want to meet up for coffee as you indicated let me know. You can call or text me at 503-! <br />Have a fabulous week!<br />Trina <br />========================================<br />LJPDX<br />3/8/2013 7:53:57 AM<br />Hello! That is true, your profile is extremely honest and straight forward... although possibly a bit negative? Have you had some <br />bad experiences with online dating?<br />I'm not really sure we're a good match, but it is refreshing to see someone brave enough to just say what they think and feel, <br />so who knows?<br />========================================<br />LitaPitaPo<br />4/24/2013 10:40:03 PM<br />You have a really well written profile :)<br />========================================<br />starshine6<br />4/6/2013 3:17:52 PM<br />Hello,<br />I know I am not what you are looking for, (you are very clear on what you want/don't want), but I really enjoyed reading your profile.<br /> It made me laugh. I guess I never realized that you guys run into the same thing with some women that we run into with some men.<br /> Anyway, good luck to you. :) <br />========================================<br /><br />stargazer01<br />6/7/2013 2:29:43 PM<br />Whew-hoo! You go!!! Best profile I've read since I got on here a day ago. I think we could be great friends! Have no idea whether <br />it would be more or not but whoever does right? Anyway, just wanted to send you some support for being honest and demanding the <br />respect that you deserve. Have a great weekend!<br />Heidi<br /><br />==========================================<br /><br /><br /><br />I have deleted one or two of the letters in their names to keep them anonymous. I just wanted to know what you thought about my profile too. I have received about 3200 response's,So far I have only 1 negative one. Not bad I guess. <br />so I again thank you very much. I will go change a few things on my page. take care and ill see you in the funny pages....:)<br />~Tracy J<br />I LOVE THIS SITE !<br />THANK'S Markus<br /><br /><br /><br /> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02153252292333345120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2290387868157686268.post-821210050588502772013-06-04T10:53:05.905-04:002013-06-04T10:53:05.905-04:00Hi Tracy,
Most of my Plenty of Fish messages star...Hi Tracy,<br /><br />Most of my Plenty of Fish messages started out with “I like your profile”. I don’t know if everyone says that or not as a way to break the ice, but the reaction seemed genuine because of the warmth in the messages as well as specific reasons why guys would connect with my profile. I don’t really know what it is I did that produced such favourable reactions. I can perhaps give you some ideas.<br /><br />My strategy in filling out my profile information was to focus on myself. I don’t like the idea of selling myself or of bragging, so this wasn’t easy for me. I thought, though, that it would be important for people to read the profile and get an idea of what I’m like. I was honest in everything I wrote in my self-description and tried to make it representative, so that anyone reading would be getting to know me (which I figured, after all, is the point of being on Plenty of Fish). I also thought about keeping it brief, because I figured that guys would not read my profile if it took up a lot of space. If you’re interested, please refer to my entry “Information Overload” to see my “About me” section from my profile.<br /><br />I realized quickly that a lot of people use their “About me” box to talk about what they want in a relationship. I think that is a good idea, because there is no other place in the profile to really touch on that. It is a way to get to know a person too, at least one aspect of a person. I notice that most of your profile is focused on this. And within that, you mainly talk about what you don’t want. That is honest, direct and, totally your right. However, if you make this the main focus of your profile, not only can it make your profile sound negative, it can make you sound negative, which is, I am sure, not what you would like to project about yourself.<br /> <br />I believe in attracting flies with honey. I think you can be authentic while being positive at the same time. I also firmly believe in putting positive thoughts out in the universe if you want to receive positive thoughts back. I think online dating requires a bit of a leap of faith; it takes a lot of patience and as optimistic an outlook as possible for it to work for you. Perhaps you are afraid of attracting too many flies with honey and perhaps some that are less than desirable. From what I can tell from your writing, you already have the experience to be discerning and see which first messages you receive will be worthy of your time and energy and which will not be. You don’t have to answer all first messages. Trust yourself and your instincts.<br /> <br />Furthermore, Plenty of Fish already does have a bit of an “x people need not apply” built in. If you modify your Mail Settings, these filters will appear on your profile. For example, this is what appeared automatically at the bottom of my profile: <br />To send a message to Elise_Caron you MUST meet the following criteria:<br />Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex. <br />Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter<br />Must not do drugs<br />So not only will it block certain people from sending you messages in the first place, it can serve as a message to people reading your profile what your values or deal breakers are as well. You don’t have to then write these things into your “About me” box and can leave room for other things. <br />So my suggestion to you would be to write more about yourself in your profile. I am sure, Tracy, that there is so much more to you than what you’ve already put in your self-description. Let them know what makes you tick. That, I think, is what they will respond to.<br /> <br />Thank you for writing in. I hope some of this was helpful. I know that online dating can be discouraging at times. Try to stay Hopeful.<br /><br />Wishing you the best of luck,<br /><br />~ EliseElise Caronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15039602299667399758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2290387868157686268.post-34533473269832954632013-06-03T10:13:08.685-04:002013-06-03T10:13:08.685-04:00apparently I get a lot of feed back on my profile,...apparently I get a lot of feed back on my profile,,, all great ones but one ? maybe you can help me out? what do you think about my page? >><br />About Tracy James <br /> Okay...Hello to all of you. <br />(FIRST OF ALL I WILL NOT BE HAVING SEX WITH YOU WITH-IN THE FIRST TWO MONTHS)<br />And yes! I will take offense if you don't think I'm serious or try to get me to have sex with you beforehand. And if you don’t want to respect my decision then I'm sure you’re not the one I have been looking for. Please don't waste our time.<br />If you want to go out get a drink play pool or chill at the river then let's go. If you have pictures of your tit's or coochie all popping out then I really don't want to meet you. It’s nice to look at. Yet I would not bring you home to meet my family. Now that I’m almost 40ish it's not all about the sex and party all the time. I have actually grown up and am looking for a companion that is done with all that stuff too. I can fix anything and have all the tools to do so .I'm very handy to have around, will help any of one of my friends with anything they need at any time day or night. <br />And please if you’re on the rebound or still married then do not even send me an email. Yes separated is married.OMG what’s up with that crap...Please have recent pictures too and if your hiding behind something or have blurry pictures and we can’t see your whole self then I don't want to meet you in real life. Been their done that. Oh and if you have something that needs to be said before we meet then please tell me beforehand. (example) > You have An ex-boyfriend that’s trying to catch you with another man so he can slash his tires and start a fight with him because you have kids together and will probably get back together. Just saying......<br />Okay, so here's an idea. If your here to meet someone, then maybe we should look at the pictures, think to our-self .(wow cute) then send an email ask the normal Q's then set up a coffee meeting at Starbucks’s to see if there’s a click or not. And either set-up our first date, or go on our marry way. And find another victim. LOL @ victim...<br />WTHECK IS WITH ALL THE “OH... I DON’T KNOW YOU AND I CAN'T GIVE YOU MY NUMBER" OH LETS EMAIL FOR A WEEK, THEN I’LL CALL YOU... (SUCK IT).<br /> I thought we are here to find our best friend/love/soul-mate..? I’m looking for someone that doesn’t have a lot of baggage. As in ex husbands or boyfriends that are still involved in their day to day business. Kids are fine, as long as they are respectful and have their *^*^& together.<br /> Nonsmoker would be best but open to a smoker too. It really doesn’t bother me that much. I do not smoke or drink I will drink a beer once in a blue moon. I love to drive around and see things. Paint cars, play scratch its, watch jay leno, BBQ, bake, food shopping, and much more.<br /> I'm FIT and would like to find someone else that's FIT as well. And likes going to the gym from time to time and bike rides or swimming and even a walk on the waterfront just to people watch. <br />Well this concludes my pitch to find my next best friend and I look forward into meeting you soon. Thanks’ for your time and Good luck to all of us ~~<br />Oh if and you like to play scrabble send me a chat request and let's play...<br />~Yours truly <br />T.J. <br /><br /><br /><br />First Date <br /> Our first date will be a(SPONTANIOUS MEETING) to see if we would like to go on a (DATE). And it should TAKE PLACE IN THE MIDDLE somewhere in a (PUBLIC PLACE), I believe it should be (DUTCH).<br />Some of you might say my profile sounds negative but the reality is, I'm the only one that has GUT’S enough to say what everybody is thinking. So (SUCK IT) J k.<br /><br />I put dating with nothing serious yet I’m focused on what I want, yet hesitant to believe it exists.<br /><br />P.S I will give up this dating site when I find a mutual connection but until then I will date openly and keep my options open I feel it takes time to get to know someone and there's no harm in meeting new people. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02153252292333345120noreply@blogger.com